From Where I Stand

It is always easy to tell a story when we have experienced the details it presents ourselves. It is even easier to tell that story if we are the subject of the story and if it is not a matter of presenting cases.From where we stand is always the most suitable position to tell any story truly though not always completely. I stand at a place today where to love is to abandon self, where the object of love leaves no motive to do so. I stand at a place where my judgment can easily be biased. To take a walk through the forest, one has to know the path well, but even more importantly, one has to know the forest better. To love, we need to know and understand even better that object of love.The more we know, the better we are positioned to love and though knowledge may never increase our intensity of love, it will surely better our quality to love. As we walk this journey of life, we discover that making the right decision is not always going to be easy and that dying is not always the brave decision to make. We are going to be inconvenienced some times we are even going to be hurt but our resolve to love with no expectation of being loved will see us through.When people throw everything we lovingly give back at us, when they spit in our smiling faces, they leave us many options. We can choose to see them as that or go to the root of their evil. Much of our upbringing had a lot of training left out. We were not taught to be loved, we were taught that what we give will be valued over who we are and that that’s how we are to treat the rest. We have not been taught to appreciate without valuing. When I see good furniture all I see is the beauty but there are many people that will first see the cost and then all that’s missing and by the time they are done, there is no beauty.We have to teach people a lot, even how to be loved. Men are often hurt by wives that value what they offer over who they are. Women too. It is a very simple principle we love to be appreciated over what we are able to give.We love to be measured by who we are over what we are. Treat people like trash and very soon you will trash both to them and to your self. That’s just the way it is. What we give we receive and when we keep receiving we become. What ever is deposited in our lives stays when we let it stay.Need I say more?