Inversely

The other day I saw a picture of a man and a woman fighting, the caption below read, husband and wife and to see them fighting made me think;

We first Thought:

Sadly that does not apply to all people, we neither think first nor understand first, most people feel first and only feel. Even feelings have thoughts or should be thought through, and the purpose of thinking should be to lead to understanding and the goal of understanding is to create wholeness. The lane down our feelings is very uncertain if we all know and to entirely rely on this while building a structure of any kind is to put that structure and all that are deemed to rely on it, in jeopardy.

The Thin Feeling:

So we lean on the thinness of our feelings to relate with a person, to start a marriage with them and to build a family with them. And then what? Taking time to look at the origin of things tells us a lot about what they are meant to do and why they are founded the way they are. Woman will take a man for a husband and the man will take a woman for a wife because she is a woman and she , because he is a man. Both rely on that knowledge to make such an important decision. Notice that I have ignored the perverted mistakes that we have blamed on both nature and God. But after a certain period of that walk it is common that either of them will forget the basis of their union. And when you think of it well, they have not forgotten, they had none and what they thought they had was based on a thin membrane called the feeling.

In the beginning:

God created a man for a woman; the man was to be the protection and the woman the nurturing. That was such a beautiful picture and still is. The original picture was that the two would provide the unbreakable support for what would later be called the family tree. None was to be the interruption to the works or position of the other and both were to be the support of each other. The two were endowed with the nature to perform their roles in such a way that the more they performed them, the stronger they stood both as individuals and as a pair. Life was meant to be green in such a way that we all found a place to rest and a fruit to nourish us.

The Broken Tooth:

Then some men realised that they had women that could carry the whole load, they could both nourish and protect. So they thought they should abandon their role for a more prestigious one. They became guards and gave instructions to their wives to do all the work while they devoted their minds to less important roles. Today entire nations are built on the notion that a man’s position is above the woman and that as such she should serve every need of his.

And when we put ladders to our standing, we also broke the bridge of communication and the men stopped interacting with their wives in such a way that facilitated the standing together in support of the next generation and of each other. And with the break in communication, the women thought they need to talk among themselves. First was the discussion of their plight together and then they also realised that they are also performing more and better than they are appreciated.

Then was the discussion against the inconsiderate husbands and they even went ahead to try to talk to them. But how do you talk to one that will not listen to you or that thinks you should not talk at all. So they formed support groups to help them go through the rough times. At that time it was discovered that they actually did not need the men to raise the children and to build homes, in fact they needed more recognition to help their fellow women be like them, like men. The right word should be emancipation.

The Margin of Error:

The point is the woman cannot be more woman than she already is, the man cannot be any more or less of a man than he was designed. The problem is not in position, it’s in perception. Both camps have very broken perceptions, imagine boys learning to be men, from their mothers, they will either bee too in or too out. Girls cannot learn to be women from their mothers alone, nor from their fathers alone, what comes with the genes, needs the wisdom of both to create the balance.

We have wronged our very kind, we have wronged ourselves in process with wrong that breeds as we do. We have started a war that will be passed on to the next generations and one that will only take many ugly turns. Soon gay men and women will ask to be emancipated and that will be at its worst. Coitus for childbirth has made us child-making machines and yet for all we have done, this seems the only viable option.

The Correction:

Its in you and starts with you.